Romance problems, I need advices?

I need to say ';no'; to a guy that wants me. He never gives up on me. I want him too, I want him very badly, but he is married. It would not be cheating though, both he and his wife see other people, but I don't want to be one of the ';other people';, you know. I have feelings for him therefor I need to say no to him.





I can't stay away from him, I have to see him every day, so it's really hard.





What can I do? Both to feel differently about him, and to have the strength to say no to him?Romance problems, I need advices?
Sweetie, be strong...You do not want to get involved with a married man....so he says he sees other people and his wife sees other people...maybe so, maybe not....but for the most part, I would not trust a cheater....If he is not happy in his relationship with his wife and she not with him, they should get a divorce...nothing good can come from a relationship where one person is still tied to another...maybe there is an underlying reason he does not leave her...and to go into a relationship thinking that you may be the one to make him change his mind and leave her....well, 99% of the time....they still love their wife and refuse to get a divorce...honestly the best advice is to stay far far away from him..((((((HUGS)))))...Linda PS if you want to know what to say to him to get him to leave you alone....tell him that you NEVER date married men...that should about do the trick....





Edit: OK, so they ARE in an open marriage....well, is that what you really want for yourself..???? Don't you want more from a relationship than a few stolen moments here and there while he spends the rest of his time with someone that he doesn't care if she is out with other men...??? Would he want you to do that too...if you wound up together in the end??? Sweetie, don't let yourself get swept up in the heat of the moment...find someone that is true to you and only you...this cheating man only wants the best of both worlds...to be married to one and to have some fun on the side...run, run, run as fast as you can before you get involved with him...It will only break your heart.....Romance problems, I need advices?
It is cheating.





Just think, if you get him, you will have a man who strays.





It is chemical, the feeling of being in love.





There is nothing you can do to feel differently.





I suggest you find another place to be,





or remind yourself that he is the kind of man who wants to use your body





but offers you nothing in return but attention.





Is that enough to risk your future over?
1. Say NOTHING to this man. Ignoring him completely is the best way of saying you want nothing to do with him. Walk or look away without a word.





2. If you work together, write down the date, time, etc. that he attempts anything that makes you feel uncomfortable.





3. Talk to someone in HR or your immediate supervisor. Give them a copy of your records and also let them see that you're writing down the details of this meeting.





4. For the emotional side of it... it's hard, I know, but you have every reason to be proud of yourself!
You need to tell him, that you dont feel comfortable with the whole being the other person. Tell him you understand his wife wouldnt care but you do. tell him you dont wnat him to leave his wife and so the only action that can be taken is no action and you would appericate if just would let go of the idea because you dont want to put yourself through all that, and if he really cares he will understand.
If you really want him go for it but just remember he is married and have a wife and no matter what they are together but if you just wanna have fun and dont think about the worst everything should be okay..... but dont get to serious with him.
He has an open marriage ... Wait til it ends .. they don't last .